My brain so easily goes to what is wrong, what didn’t happen, what I didn’t do, what I don’t have…Even after learning that this is a natural neurological “downward spiral” that the brain/mind is prone to do I can’t stop it nor my frustration with myself that I am doing it again. It is better. Better than last month and even better than last year. And I let go. I let go of unrealistic expectations that I should be […]
It’s hard to believe that the second quarter of 2017 has started, I’m amazed. The first quarter went fast. Lately I’ve been busy with a long to-do list that sometimes wakes me up around 3AM; I know I’m not alone in this swirling of items to be done invading my sleep, right? I’m grateful that I can now minimize my time awake by : 1. Thanking my mind for the reminder with a smile and/or 2. I write it down on a […]
“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.” – Henry David Thoreau I love this quote because I’ve experienced this myself and I’ve had the honor of being on the lost path with clients who begin to understand themselves better. It always leads to more wisdom, so this quote by Aristotle is another favorite: “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle It’s only recently that I recognized the immense value of all the […]
Have you noticed how story telling is everywhere now? I think the marketing gurus and politicians all figured out how we are hard wired for patterns and patterns are stories. I love a good one too, what I don’t love is how my brain (or mind) can immediately make up a story that is not based on any real fact and then the especially sneaky thing is that I get rewarded with a shot of dopamine for that story whether […]
I know it sounds too good to be true, just one little thing and it will give me big improvements? Really?! Yes, I just did it yesterday. I was stuck. In traffic. It was ugly. No way to escape the jam of autos. I could feel my blood pressure starting to rise, my shoulders tensing. Ugh! Then I remembered what I share with my clients (whenever I say it I am thinking about how I am saying it to remind myself […]
In her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, Bronnie Ware shares stories of her life and those of her dying patients, she heard these five regrets the most: Courage to live true to myself Don’t work too hard -Last week’s post linked here Courage to express my feelings Stay in touch with friends Choose happiness In the book, Bronnie Ware shared the story of a 94-year old man who regrets that his family does not know him at […]
In her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, Bronnie Ware shares stories of her life and those of her dying patients, she heard these five regrets the most: Courage to live true to myself – Last week’s post linked here Don’t work too hard Courage to express my feelings Stay in touch with friends Choose happiness In the book, Bronnie Ware tells the story of a 90-year old man who wishes he would have listened to his wife and […]
One of the ways I love to help clients is coaching them on how to make better choices on which way to go next. “Do I go find another job or work to make this one better?” “Which choice do I make to invest and grow my business?” “Should I go back to school and get an advanced degree?” “Can I really afford to retire and if I can, do I really want to?” And I share similar questions for myself: should I […]
I make it a tradition every year to let something go; it’s more fun and productive than those crazy resolutions. I gave those up a long time ago, thank God. Things I’ve let go of in the past: “Being a runner” No running for me, if you have that runner’s high then more power to you, I’m a bit envious! Diet coke. I used to drink it a lot, starting first thing in the morning. Oh it makes me […]
It is a challenging time in our US political space; how do you stay centered and courageous in the midst of (this or other) turmoil? I often think of Steven Covey’s “circles of influence, concern” that I learned about decades ago. It gives me a way to let go of the frustration/anxiety with things that are out of my span of influence and re-focus on those things that I can influence or control, like voting. Here are some other resources […]
